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How to Deal With The “NO” GUY

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by John Trojanowski
Quality Assurance Analyst, ETP Member and Lamplighter Newsletter Contributing Writer

Each one of us has a ―little guy in our head that keeps telling us ―NO when we are confronted by situations that need our decisions. Admittedly, there are many times when this ―little guy is very valuable and keeps us from acting on impulses that can be detrimental to our well being.

But there are other times when the ―No Guy limits us and can cause us to miss out on opportunities. He seems to rattle around in our heads at the most inopportune times; such as when we try to get up the nerve to introduce ourselves to a total stranger in a social setting.  This situation occurs when we are trying to network ourselves especially when we are in a state of career transition.

The ―No Guy also keeps us from making connections with people we come in contact with every day. Let me cite you a good case in point.

One of my hobbies is astronomy. I love to gaze at the stars in my front yard with the use of my telescope. I have a neighbor across the street from my house that has a flood light that shines right into my front yard. I do have to qualify this by saying that his house sits higher than mine.

One night a couple of weeks ago, I was setting up my telescope and I mentioned to my wife that I needed to ask our neighbor to turn off his floodlight. She said I shouldn’t do that, but unheedingly I went over to my neighbor‘s house. I asked him about the floodlight and he said that he would just remove the bulbs since there was no on/off switch for the light.

During our conversation, he told me that someone had given him a telescope for his daughter. He asked me if I could help him set it up. To which I readily agreed.

Imagine if I had listened to my little voice and my wife; I would have missed out on the opportunity to play with my telescope and to assist a budding amateur astronomer from getting started in the hobby.

I have found that most people are very agreeable when they

are approached properly so don‘t limit yourself by listening to that inside voice telling you ―NO. Put the onus on the other person. If you tell yourself “NO” from the onset then the answer is automati-cally ―NO.

When dealing with your ―NO” Guy, keep an open mind and evaluate the situation rationally because you never know what opportunities await you.

About the Author
John Trojanowski is an experienced software quality assurance analyst and tester with proven results in quality assurance of web-based applications. Demonstrated expertise in analyzing functional specifications and writing Test Plans and test scripts for the functional and adversarial testing processes. Recognized for achieving results in such areas as communicating technical issues to non-technical users, functional testing, negative testing and regression testing. 

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