How to Deal With The “NO” GUY
by John Trojanowski
Quality Assurance Analyst, ETP Member and Lamplighter Newsletter Contributing Writer
Each one of us has a ―little guy in our head that keeps telling us ―NO when we are confronted by situations that need our decisions. Admittedly, there are many times when this ―little guy is very valuable and keeps us from acting on impulses that can be detrimental to our well being.
The ―No Guy also keeps us from making connections with people we come in contact with every day. Let me cite you a good case in point.
One of my hobbies is astronomy. I love to gaze at the stars in my front yard with the use of my telescope. I have a neighbor across the street from my house that has a flood light that shines right into my front yard. I do have to qualify this by saying that his house sits higher than mine.
One night a couple of weeks ago, I was setting up my telescope and I mentioned to my wife that I needed to ask our neighbor to turn off his floodlight. She said I shouldn’t do that, but unheedingly I went over to my neighbor‘s house. I asked him about the floodlight and he said that he would just remove the bulbs since there was no on/off switch for the light.
During our conversation, he told me that someone had given him a telescope for his daughter. He asked me if I could help him set it up. To which I readily agreed.
Imagine if I had listened to my little voice and my wife; I would have missed out on the opportunity to play with my telescope and to assist a budding amateur astronomer from getting started in the hobby.
I have found that most people are very agreeable when they
are approached properly so don‘t limit yourself by listening to that inside voice telling you ―NO. Put the onus on the other person. If you tell yourself “NO” from the onset then the answer is automati-cally ―NO.
When dealing with your ―NO” Guy, keep an open mind and evaluate the situation rationally because you never know what opportunities await you.
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